I also believe this will lead to infidelity on his part, finding someone that does turn him on. You can’t convince me that a 37-year-old man has no sex drive. How do I get over these intense feelings to move forward in my marriage? I hate my sex life now and hate that my husband acts like he has no interest I believe this might be his way of dealing with it. It makes me feel like the problem is me and I shut down. My real sore spot is that I feel like if there was some young porn star vixen in front of him, I know he would be hard as a rock.
How can I not feel so undesired, mad, and hurt when this happens? I have tried talking to him, and I’ve tried just continuing sex, but usually it ends in me crying and leaving the room. It is causing a lot of tension in our marriage, as we are both left feeling inadequate. In the last year or two, my husband at times has failed to get aroused or gone “soft” during sex. We have always had a great sex life, and I still want him like nobody’s business. We came from nothing and now live a pretty great life.
Q: I love my husband and believe that we have a marriage that we have fought hard for and put work into.
